Here are a few examples of the types of situations I have helped clients work through in divorce mediation:
“Simple” Divorce
Of course, divorce is a major life event with emotional significance for any couple. But for some couples, there are a limited number of decisions that need to be made in order to get a legal divorce. I have worked with a number of clients who do not have children, have limited marital assets and a strong desire to divorce with a minimum of time, money and emotional strain. Couples in this situation appreciate my guidance in making the legal divorce process smooth and simple.
Real Estate
Many couples struggle with deciding what to do about a coop, condo or house, particularly in New York where housing is expensive and can be the most valuable asset a couple shares. I have helped clients reach mutually beneficial solutions that satisfy their unique needs. The solutions have included agreeing (1) to sell the property and share the net proceeds, (2) that one spouse will buy out the interest of the other spouse by refinancing the mortgage for a higher amount, (3) that one spouse will keep the house and the other will keep other marital assets, and (4) to continue to share ownership and use of a vacation house after divorce.
Parenting Schedule
Determining a schedule that allows parents living in separate households to each spend quality time with their children can seem overwhelming when the children and parents are used to seeing each other every day. I have helped parents focus on how each of them likes to spend time with their children – be it helping with homework, attending cultural or sporting events, taking them to school, or traveling – so they can craft a parenting schedule that is unique for their situation and allows both parents to maintain a strong relationship with the children.
Variable Income
Not all individuals have consistent income streams. For example, people who work in the financial services industry in New York may have income that varies significantly from year to year due to discretionary bonuses. This can make determining child support and spousal support challenging. I have helped clients determine what is fair to both parties even when income is variable.
Complex Financial Decisions
Reaching a settlement regarding financial matters involves making decisions about a number of topics, such as division of assets (including real estate, retirement accounts, etc.) and liabilities (including student loans, credit card debt and mortgages), spousal support, and child support. Viewed independently, these issues can seem overwhelming. I have helped clients to see the broader financial picture and think creatively about how the pieces of the puzzle can fit together. By better understanding their financial needs, the parties can structure creative solutions regarding support and equitable distribution.